My father bought me AirPods. I cried.

My parents didn’t know I’d moved house.

Lydia Caradonna
6 min readMar 6, 2021

They found out when my sister saw the Instagram story and my mother phoned me, confused.

“Your dad sent you something this morning. It was meant to arrive today,” she told me.

“What is it?” I asked, trying to keep my tone light.

“He says it’s a surprise, but that you should go and get it. And send over your new address.”

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I agreed that I would and then hung up with no intention of doing so. The music that I had been unpacking to suddenly sounded bubblegum-bright, fake, unnatural. I turned it off and called the grandmother that I had been living with and asked her to open the package.

They were AirPods Pro. I cried myself to sleep.

You may have guessed by now that this is not a story about being ungrateful. If you had told me that morning that I would receive a surprise gift of some $250 wireless headphones, I would have been ecstatic. But these were not gifts. My father does not give gifts.

My father did not even call me on my birthday.

On the rare occasion that we even acknowledge financial abuse, we only tend to discuss restriction. It is true that my father took my mother’s debit cards and prevented her from…



Lydia Caradonna

Sex worker, “””journalist””” and activist from the UK! // Tweets at: @LydiaCaradonna // works with: @ukdecrimnow // argues with: the government